Life as I See It – Positive Approach

Life is a journey; why not make it an enjoyable journey on a path to self-discovery while helping others along the way?




Forgiveness is not something we do for other people.
We must do it for ourselves.
We must forgive so that we can heal, to overcome and to be able to move on in our life.

Some people feel that a person or circumstance may have come into their life and ruined them in some way.That this person or circumstance has ruin them in a way in which they feel they are paralyzed and cannot go on about what they may have previously wanted to achieve in their life.

However, some people will feel that even though a person or circumstance may have impacted their life in a negative way, they will still maintain control of themselves and stay focused on what they wish to achieve in their life. They do not allow this one particular person or circumstance to rob them of their goals they have set for themselves.

As with many things that you may set out to do in life, not all will have the desired outcome you wish to have. You should not let this setback taint your overall desire to do and become better in your life.

IF there happens to be an outside source that may have contributed to your setback, you must find it within yourself to overcome any hard feelings towards certain people or circumstances and overcome any feelings of despair and move on. Otherwise you will never get anywhere in life.

Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.” Cherie Carter-Scott

Your life is ALWAYS up to YOU. Make the right choice that will empower you and give you the strength to keep on keeping on.

Because It’s All About YOU! and Changing Yourself and your Life for the Better

Darleen Lanham



Gifts Bestowed Upon You

giftsI would like to share a wonderful secret with you, JUST in case you do not realize it yet.

At the moment you were born, and you took your first breath, a great celebration was held in the heavens and twelve magnificent gifts were granted to you.

You were born with certain gifts, abilities or talents. You may not ever realize this until you go through certain circumstances in your life.

Even though you possess each of these gifts, they may not seem to be as obvious to you as you may see them to be in others.

However, just as the expression says, “there is a time and place for everything”, there will be a time and place for each of these gifts to make themselves known to you. This may prove to be a very enlightening and empowering time for you.

Believe it or not, you are equipped to withstand and overcome many things in life. You must however, keep doing all that you can to better yourself and have faith that you can keep moving forward even in the most trying times.


1. Strength – May you remember to call upon it whenever you need it.

2. Beauty – May your deeds reflect its depth.

3. Courage – May you speak and act with confidence and use courage to follow your own path.

4. Compassion – May you be gentle with yourself and others. May you forgive those who hurt you and yourself when you make mistakes.

5. Hope – Through each passage and season, may you trust the goodness of life.

6. Joy – May it keep your heart open and filled with light.

7. Talent – May you discover your own special abilities and contribute them toward a better world.

8. Imagination – May it nourish your visions and dreams.

9. Reverence – May you appreciate the wonder that you are and the miracle of all creation.

10. Wisdom – Guiding your way, wisdom will lead you through knowledge to understanding. May you hear its soft voice.

11. Love – It will grow each time you give it away.

12. Faith – May you believe.

Now you know about your twelve gifts of birth, use your gifts well and along the way you will discover others, but also come to realize that among them is a gift that is uniquely you.

See these noble gifts in other people. Share this and help others open their eyes to their own potential in all that they wish to do and desire in their life.

Darleen Lanham


Time to Stop Making Excuses and Take Action

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There’s only so many times you can allow someone to knock you down, whether it may be physically or emotionally, before you can’t handle anymore. You will then need to decide to either put a stop to it OR get out of the way. The choice is yours!

When things change, people change. You should not feel trapped or held down in whatever ongoing situation you may currently be in. YOU, MUST make a conscious decision to make a change, even if it means doing something or acting in a way you never have before. Only YOU can stop the nonsense.

There’s a point in life where you will get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix things, but it’s not giving up, it is called living life and doing what has to be done to get to where you wish to be in life. If what you are doing for others is not getting YOU to where you wish to be in YOUR life, then it is time to make some changes and take care of yourself. This is NOT being selfish, this is called being smart and making a change for the better. Repeating the same action day after day will ONLY produce the same results. Take a chance and try something new. Who knows where it could lead you and those who wish to see you succeed.

You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if it hurts. Time to take the blinders off and step out of that box. Take a chance on life…. YOUR life. Success is there for the taking. Make sure to grab hold of what you deserve.

Suggestions on how to begin rebuilding Life from Within:

Love yourself, unconditionally.
Release your bottled up emotions.
Make time for long walks, alone.
Avoid living beyond your means.
Nurture your inner strength.
Stop apologizing for being you.
Surround yourself with POSITIVE people.
Enhance your situation, whatever it may be.

Have Faith,
Be Strong,
Have a strong Will and Desire to be more in life,
Believe in Yourself and especially during your darkest moments…
Fight with ALL your might to Overcome to Keep on Keeping On!

Success is YOURS for the taking. Reach out and take part in Life

Focus…..Believe… WILL Achieve!you choose action


Passion for Having a Better Life

followpassionThe path in your life,
may never be straight.
Containing bumps and curves,
where many are great.

Your personal experiences,
have shaped who you are.
Embrace your mistakes,
and each unique scar.

There’s always new things,
in life we may learn.
With every page,
and chapter we turn.

There’s just one simple,
but very important rule.
Your passion for life,
should be used as your fuel.



While some of us may fight with everything we have in us to tackle and overcome something others seem to glide through, you have to keep the faith and keep believing in what you are doing and where you wish to be in life.

You must do all that you can to be happy not only with yourself but with the world around you.

If you want something bad enough, you MUST find the strength to keep on keeping on, even when the chips seem to keep stacking up against you.

Set your mind on the future that you so desire and the reality that you wish to create for yourself and pursue those goals passionately and intelligently with everything you can muster up.

Even if you stumble from time to time, get right back up, say to hell with what you just stumbled over and go right back to making the life you want.


Are you going to let just anything knock you down or are you going to kick dirt in the face of adversity and let it eat your dust?

The choice is YOURS as with everything in life.

Stand Straight, Stand Strong, Stand for What You Believe In.
Stand for Yourself and the Life you Deserve!

Because It’s All About YOU! and Changing Yourself and your Life for the Better


It May Be Work But You CAN Decide How To Go About It


images (2)I spent many years working outside of the home. However, I always had the desire to be at home with my family, doing anything else but working my b… off helping to make some other guy rich and successful.

As that desire grew stronger, I began researching, learning and becoming involved with many different aspects of Internet marketing.

I am very pleased with what I have accomplished while working at home and working online. HOWEVER….. I must say that it is NOT as easy or relaxing as I had first thought.

As with anything in life, you only get out of something what you put into it. You should not expect to be able to get anywhere, without putting a good amount of effort into making it happen. Whether it is working a 9 to 5 J. O. B outside the home making someone else richer, OR trying to start or maintain your own home business. It can be very draining, even when trying to go by a schedule.

I feel like I am working harder now than I ever have. But I am also happier in regards to working to better myself for the future.

I am including these poems that I hope will help illustrate my thoughts about working from home, and how putting forth a continuous effort each and everyday will help to make what I so desire my future to be, come true.

*** All the so-called “secrets of success” will not work unless you do.

*** Some people dream of success… while others wake up and work hard at it.


Is Life Fair – Working For Others

We work so hard and have little time to share,
with anything or anyone for those whom we care.
Is life really fair?

Constant stress, deadlines to bare,
weekends are over and no time left to share
Is life really fair?

You dress to impress for that wanted success,
but get paid enough just to barely exist!
Is life really fair?

I would have to agree that I’m fed up for people like you and me,
that work so hard for such little pay, not even to be appreciated
at the end of the day.

Basically I would like to see,
people of the likes of you and me,
enjoying our lives to the fullest,
now wouldn’t that be the coolest?


Give It Your All

Let’s never give in,
to complaints nor fear.
With our eyes on our goals,
the right direction we steer.

No matter the circumstances,
with great effort we should always try.
We must pick ourselves up,
when we get bruised and we cry.

Opportunities are plentiful,
let’s just open our eyes.
Our dreams we shall nurture,
as we stare to the skies.

The trick is to create value,
that’s honest and real.
By following our passions,
in our hearts, we shall feel.

If we never hold back,
and just give it our all.
No challenge or obstacle,
shall ever be tall.


In my words….. Keep on Keeping On! You WILL get there!!!

Because It Is All About YOU! and Changing Yourself and Your Life for the Better



The Power of Praise

edificationHow many times have you heard that one way to be a success in life is to act successful?

If you wish to be a success in whatever you wish to do in life, and also be successful at helping others to reach the success they so desire in life, one of the key things you must have is the ability and the heart to encourage and inspire others along the way.

With each person that you meet each and every day, you must understand that you possess the power to either provide each person the encouragement that will help them continue on with their journey towards their future success, but at the same time, you also possess the power that could possibly destroy their will to continue on.

Your words and actions can prove to be very powerful when building a relationship with someone.

Have you ever experienced the feeling when someone might have praised you for something you had done well? Or on the other hand, have you ever received what you felt to be a negative comment or action from someone concerning something you had done? If so, wasn’t there a big difference in how you felt when it came to moving on and doing more of what you had just done?

There are people in life that you may encounter that will encourage you along your journey to your future success. When you receive that encouragement, you may have a feeling as if you were Superman or Superwoman. Because of their praise, you may have felt much more motivated to keep charging forward towards the goal that you had set for yourself.

However, unfortunate as it may be, there are also people who may be unkind or oblivious to how their words may affect others. If that were to happen to you, you may feel as if they had somehow managed to steal your dream away and your hopes from you and what you had wished so much to do with your life.

There is a lot to be said about the power of praising others and how you should go about building relationships with others in a way that will not only make you feel good about yourself and how you can help them, but your words and actions will also lift others up and inspire them to continue on their journey to which they MAY have not been so sure was right for them until they met you.

Praising someone not only will help them feel more motivated and confident in themselves and in their efforts to keep going towards what they believe in, but at the same time they will look at you as a person who truly cares for them and wants the best for them.

And you know what that means to both of you? It means that you will have successfully begun to build a positive and long term relationship that will do wonders in helping you both reach success in life.

Just be sure to always be honest in the praise that you hand out to others. If you truly feel that they deserve your praise, then by all means, go for it, let them have it. However, if you feel they may have done something wrong, why not try and help them do better. Just be careful not to belittle them or shoot them down in some way that may discourage them from trying to improve in all that they do.

Life is about relationships and how you treat others. Which in turn will reflect back on how you are looked upon by others.

Just take a moment and think about it. Who do you think will have a greater leadership and a greater capacity of influence in the lives of their followers, the one who steps on or over people, so to speak, without any thought to their feelings, or the one who does what they can to build them up and encourage them to succeed in all they wish to go after?

When a person is showered with the right amount of praise and shown appreciation for what they are trying to do with all of their heart and soul, they have a tendency to become extremely loyal to those who are kind enough to think of helping them in a way that others may not. They will then know that they are actually cared for, and that you truly appreciate them and wish them the best in life.

Even if you never get anything in return, it is the right thing to do to help encourage and build up other people in a way that they feel good about the path they are on, especially during those times that they may feel all is lost.

If you have the desire and care enough, you CAN be the change you may wish to see in the world.

Something as simple as taking a couple of minutes out of YOUR busy schedule to give them a call or maybe even a pat on the back could be all that is needed to keep them focused and motivated.

No matter how you look at it, there IS power in praising others for giving their best to reach their success in life.

Anyone can overcome any odds to achieve a successful life and help others achieve the same. As long as there is a strong enough Will to continue on no matter what may appear in their path, a strong enough Desire to become more than they are today and most importantly, a heart that cares for the good of all, not just oneself.

“We are not islands and we don’t get to the top by ourselves”. Chris Widener

Because It’s All About YOU! and Changing Yourself and Your Life for the Better
(and also having the heart and are willing to help others along the way who may need a boost)

Success will Abound for all those who deserve it and have put forth the effort to get there

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